Everyone talks about post-wedding emptiness, a feeling of loss and not feeling useful or excited anymore once the frenetic buzz of wedding planning is no longer required. I was prepared for this feeling, but didn’t find myself experiencing any of it. On the contrary, I’ve been basking in memories of the day and enjoying hearing about our guests’ experiences of our wedding, which differed from our own in that they saw and heard things we didn’t see or hear. I’ve relished having the time to do what I had been putting off for the last couple of pre-wedding months – clearing out the back room of wedding paraphernalia, reorganising our wardrobes and reassessing what items we need and what we can afford to throw or give away (a frequent consideration when you live in a small house). I’ve noticed the absence of that distant, nagging feeling – the “what if the worst happens” image – that has been in the back of my mind for a while now. I know what happened now, and it was amazing, and I don’t need to worry about back-up plans or confirming details or disaster stories any more.
What I can’t seem to tear myself away from, however, no matter how irrelevant it might now seem, is looking at other people’s weddings. Wedding blogs, photographers’ websites, friends’ weddings that are coming up, you name it and I just can’t seem to get enough of it – still. I guess now I know what all those newlyweds and soon-to-be newlyweds in the photos are thinking and feeling and imagining, it gives me a renewed interest in the details of others’ special days. Maybe it’s still just a phase I’m closing out of, who knows.
Skipping forward in time from our wedding in late December, the following morning my husband (!) and I travelled to Victoria for our honeymoon. We flew into Melbourne on New Year’s Eve just in time for dinner (a degustation menu with matched wines) at Vue de Monde. Let me just say that this was one of the most memorable dining experiences of my life. Highlights of the evening included a single baby marron with a crunchy butter to hand-dip into, an enormous chocolate souffle with chocolate sauce poured over the top at our table, salted caramel shell chocolates and an amazing cheese course (pictured below), hand cut from the Vue de Monde cheese cart roaming the floor. We finished dinner at 11:30 pm, just in time for our waitress to escort us through the kitchen to the restaurant’s Lui Bar, where we rang in the new year while watching the fireworks over the Yarra and drinking old fashioneds. It was magic.
On the first day of 2014, Mike and I hired a car and drove out to Victoria’s Yarra Valley where a revamped old farm dairy house was waiting for us. Much to our excitement, the weather turned rainy and cold just in time for us to bunker down for our first evening in the country and light the fire in the dairy house.
We spent three lovely days in the Valley, during which we checked out local wineries, drank a lot of pinot noir and shiraz, ate very well (including at the Healesville Hotel and the Innocent Bystander cafe) and managed a day trip to the Mornington Peninsula. Doesn’t Mike look handsome with his wedding ring on (above).
Finally, to round out the trip, we checked back into our amazing Melbourne hotel, The Olsen, one of the city’s Art Series hotels, this one modelled around the work of Australian artist John Olsen. The weather was still crazily cold for summer (I refer to my jumper below), but we ventured out to Mamababa around the corner from our hotel where I ordered a crayfish pasta below that changed. my. life., did a little shopping and drank some delicious Melbourne coffee. As part of her wedding gift to us, Verity had orchestrated a romantic tour of Melbourne (complete with snack money and mini Nutellas to keep up our energies), which ended in us leaving a lock engraved with our names and wedding date somewhere in Melbourne (I’m not going to say where). I really hope Melbourne’s street cleaners take pity on our little lock and don’t take to it with bolt-cutters any time soon. We loved Verity’s idea and were so glad to be able to leave behind a little memento of our Victorian honeymoon.
So far, married life rocks.
And now it is January! I realise I have neglected to post anything on this little blog for a solid four months. Hopefully this year brings a lot more diligence on my part in posting little snippets more regularly. Not that it is an excuse, but the primary reason for my blog absence is that I was married late last month. Accordingly, the last few months of 2013 were spent being very busy at work (planning for a three-week period of leave, more than I have ever taken) and very busy at home, making the final arrangements for the wedding.
I will post more pictures from the wedding shortly. But for now, one of my favourites so far is below. It was an amazing day, the best of our lives, and we have spent the past week and a half reliving all of our experiences from the day.